You can read my Operation Joy post for this week over in Discord
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Oh my goodness, Scrappy is beyond adorable! I am so sorry to hear the news of his poor health. Your outlook is truly inspiring, and I hope you can enjoy every minute you have together–I know he will. 
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This week’s assignment: Do something nice for others, gratuitously.
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This week Cenk and Ana were talking about evaluating feedback.
One thing that’s also useful is to reframe feedback. I don’t mean changing the words, but taking a deep breath and take what’s helpful out of it.
When I was starting out in my job, I was asked to do something. I got it the User Interface (UI) looking the way it was supposed to with some fake data, so I could make sure it looked okay. And I had some questions before I did the next step and talked with one of the most senior developers at work.
He ripped me up one side of the room and down the other for using fake data to demonstrate something. I’ll be honest, I was pissed but I listened.
After I calmed down a bit, I had a chance to think about what he was saying, not how he said it. Then I broke down what I got out of that interaction:
- I got 2 hours with a system architect to go over how he wanted things to work. (Okay, he was senior enough to say how things would work.)
- I got an important lesson on presentations that may go in front of directors, etc… because they can look down into the developer conversations. “Daffy Duck” and other silly things like that didn’t work in our industry and I needed to keep that in mind.
- I did get some useful feedback on what I had worked on and how to tighten it up.
- I also found out that when working with this guy, other times of the day, or when he wasn’t under a lot of stress would probably be better to ask questions.
We went on to have a fairly good relationship – possibly because I took the lessons that he wanted, not thrown by how they were delivered.
Good luck with this week’s Operation Joy assignment, everyone.
-Jp
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“It isn’t what you say but how you say it” is correct but can be antagonistic if brought up to someone in the moment.
I would say the last point on your list seem to have outside importance in my mind. The setting and preface for the interaction will dictate to some degree how it plays out.
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This week’s assignment - let’s reject judgement !!!
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Wow, I am impressed! It is not easy to pick out the positives from such an interaction. I am glad you were rationally able to look back at the conversation with generosity and even went on to have a good relationship with the developer. While I’ve always told my kids what a person says about you and how they say it usually says more about them than it does you, an interaction like that could easily send me to the nearest ladies’ room, desperately applying concealer to my red nose and swollen eyes. (I was not blessed with having a cute cry 
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This week’s mission: Make a mistake! Say hi even if it’s awkward; try something new; reach out to someone here even if it’s weird! Super excited to hear from you all about this one! #teamjoy
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I hope there’s no mistake in me asking if there will be a town hall today.
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Yes, the townhall is at 5pm Eastern / 2pm Pacific today. And I don’t think it’s a mistake but if it was then you already accomplished this week’s Team Joy goal, lol.
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Kara , I’m sorry I missed the town hall this afternoon , I 'm having much pain today. Sorry. Can somebody fill me in Jackc380
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It starts in 17 mins!
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I am so sorry to hear you are not feeling well! Please take good care of yourself. I hope to see you at the next meeting.
I am sorry that I missed the meeting today; I really wanted to be there! It’s been a bit crazy lately, but hopefully, things will start to slow down soon. Have a great week, everyone, and I hope to see you at the next meeting.
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I didn’t think to look here for the link we may want to create a post just for that?
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this fits for last week and this week because it is something kind im doing for someone else and was a mistake to think i could pull it off. I’m growing my hair out to donate. i’ve loved the idea of doing this and thought i’d probably figure out how to maintain it. i was mistaken. i’m at around 8-9 inches and it looks awful. i’ve been done having it on my head for months but im still willing to see this through. please help me find the strength to go around looking terrible for a little while longer
thank you for your time
happy warrior
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That’s so awesome you are doing this! (And, for the record, I’ve never thought you or your hair looked bad.) What do you do to take care of your hair? I only ask because that can go a long way in making the maintenance livable. The right type of shampoo and conditioner are everything. And hey, good job on the double homework!
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thank you! you are so kind!
any suggestions would be appreciated. i use a standard cheap head and shoulders shampoo with an argan oil of morocco conditioner a couple times a week because if i wash it too much it gets crazy. thanks
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You have wavy/curly hair, right? I would for sure use conditioner every time you wash your hair. You could probably even get away with using conditioner as a shampoo and washing with a shampoo once a week. Keep in mind that I am not a hairdresser or stylist; I just know people who have waves and curls. 
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thank you! yes my hair is extremely naturally curly and tangly
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