How to talk to people who voted differently than you at Thanksgiving

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Continuing the discussion from Weekly Topic for Operation Joy:

Post your ideas here! What do you plan to do?

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I’m really lucky because I’ll be with a small group (just me and my dad, stepmom, daughter, son, and hopefully my son’s girlfriend) who aren’t interested in talking about politics. My family is really laid back and just wants to laugh and enjoy each other’s company. Two of my brothers and I are very different politically, but they won’t be with this side of the family this year. If they were, I think we would all know to stay away from that conversation altogether (time and place, you know?). I wish everyone else a lot of luck and love in navigating their holiday. :turkey::heart::football:

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https://youtu.be/WtCzI6GIdE4?si=Jt1GRrNvxn5uWPCf

A video by Joe Navarro, How to Prevent Holiday Drama.

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https://youtu.be/nf3eE4RGikw?si=c1KZqFS-iLuDCM_N

A 10% Happier podcast episode, How to Survive the Holidays

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Avoid all politics. keep your mouth full and watch football, minimize all talking.
or stay home. I just had a blow up with a HillaryBiden fanatic who was bashing Bernie like she was Joy Reid. My blood pressure went sky high and so did others in the room. She was upset Biden left the race.

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Check out my holiday series and my responses to my mother-in-law’s comments:

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I love my in-laws yet I’d rather stay home. We’re going to them in Temecula… 2 hour drive there.

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https://open.substack.com/pub/bfuturefocused/p/setting-the-stage-for-holiday-conversations?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=2q45e5

https://open.substack.com/pub/bfuturefocused/p/five-strategies-for-holiday-conversations?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=2q45e5

https://open.substack.com/pub/bfuturefocused/p/when-politics-arent-just-politics?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=2q45e5

Amazing articles I found on Substack (y’all might recognize the acclaimed author! :wink:).

All in this series are greatly helpful and appreciated! It turns out that one of my brothers is going to be at Thanksgiving now and I’m quite nervous. I’ve been heavily triggered by the sexual predation laden in the upcoming presidency (and he’s 100% MAGA), and our issues stem from occurrences in high school in which he was not only unsupportive but hurtful. These issues have never been addressed, and come up periodically. For example, I tried Facebook a couple of times but had to delete my accounts because he is “friends” with specific people (and they would comment on his posts and often come up as people I might know). Or he’ll casually bring up certain people in conversations. It’s my fault for failing to address this over the last decades, and I’m exceedingly nervous about the election getting brought up because he’s the only person in the family who brings up politics. Anyway, I’m sorry for bringing all of this up yet again; I just wanted to post these for anyone who might benefit from the tips.

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Good luck! I hope everything goes well. If nothing else, the two-hour car ride home might be valuable for processing and getting support. :heart:

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Fortunately, politics is never brought up unless I’m in an ornery mood { Hey! It has happened before!} Jack

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